Ok, so it’s been a looooong time since I’ve made a post on here. Life happens, as they say, and you prioritize things accordingly.
My life has gotten crazier and more fun at the same time. Two young kids and a third on the way makes seemingly normal tasks seem borderline unattainable, but yet somehow each day comes to an end and everything is ok.
I’ve been reading a book called “Rework” by the founders of 37signals (37signals.com) The entire book has been profoundly enlightening and an excellent investment of time. The very last page/chapter talks about how “Inspiration has an expiration date”. It’s like this; if you have an idea, vision, dream etc, you need to act on it NOW. Waiting around or saying you’ll “get to it soon” or “when everything is perfectly in place and the stars are perfectly aligned” almost never works.
I’m entering a new phase in my life having just turned 31 As a good friend phrased it, “your 20’s are all about surviving; figuring out who/what you are.” Your 30’s should be about building something great, and leaving a legacy of inspiration, creativity and innovation.
I’m looking forward to the next decade.
So, my 8 1/2 month old son still isn’t sleeping through the night; he still doesn’t even sleep for more than 4 hours at a time (and that’s pushing it) He doesn’t take a bottle well, and he’s crying in the other room right now. And you know what? I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Just found out we’ll be adding another member to the family, and I couldn’t be happier as I look forward to that challenge. So this is what my hand looks like as I look at it:
I still need a lot of work on being a better husband and father, but I’m trying hard.
My wife, on the other hand, is the most precious woman, the most patient mother, and the most perfectly crafted mate for me.
My son brings a smile to my face, even when it’s 4 am and he’s been up 5 times already. He is quite simply, the best.
And this new creation, the size of a sesame seed at the moment, has already found a special place in my heart. I’m eagerly awaiting the day we meet.
So yeah, I went to my 4th funeral/viewing today in 3 months. People say that being around death causes one to refocus on their purpose, goals and relationships, and that it sharpens “perspective” on life; I’ve personally uttered that last phrase lately.
While I agree that death makes us question our own mortality and state of life, it also reminds me that Life is a battle, and Death is the enemy. It’s an enemy of the worst kind; an enemy who is cowardly. An enemy who walks around, setting ambushes for those who least expect it and for those who are seemingly living a life of purpose and passion. Death is, in essence, the worst.
This is why I’m getting back to the basics in my life, or at least trying really hard to; letting people know I care for them, being kind to strangers, being tolerant, patient, and loving unconditionally. Death will beat me in this life, but I’m trying to remember to live my life for the life to come.
Back to basics
Hey, and thanks for stopping by. So I’m a drummer…well, I’m more than that, obviously. I’m a husband, a father, a dreamer, a wannabe innovator, and an OK cook.
Ok, so this blog is not about “drumming”, per se; though I could have a great conversation with anyone regarding that topic. No, I’m writing this because I feel there’s a lack of understanding, or better yet, the desire to understand the basics of the life that we live. A rudiment, in the “drummist” community, is a basic sticking pattern that you learn. These patterns start simple, but gradually get more difficult over time. Their complexity is pretty mind boggling, but they all begin with and are rooted in a solid foundation of the basics.
There are many areas of life that I feel we collectively as a society are missing the boat when it comes to the basics, and by no means am I excluded from that list. This is probably what I’ll dwell on mostly here; the basics of love, relationships, business, faith, ethics, passions and really, who knows what else.
So yeah, thanks for swinging by; feel free to check back often. I may actually write a second post before 2010.